Letting Go: Tips for a Successful College Send-Off

May 2, 2017


The day you both yearned for and feared has finally arrived. Your child is leaving for college.  Yes, you’ll need plenty of tissues, and, yes, you’ll be writing more checks than you ever have before.  But there are a number of other things you can do to make this transition successful for both you and your child. Thinking about these issues, and talking about them before your child leaves for college, is an opportunity to help make college the transformative experience it was meant to be.  When graduation day rolls around in four (or five or six) years, you’ll be happy that you had a handle on letting go.  And remember to change the locks so they don’t try to move back in.



No one likes paperwork, but it is a fact of college life.  Here are some essential administrative items that have to be handled before college begins:



Your child will be sent a number of documents relating to their college living arrangements: campus housing, meal plans, roommate preferences. These choices will help define their college experience, so make sure they complete and return them by the deadlines.



It’s the Family Educational Rights and Privacy Act, and it’s a law that keeps a student’s records private…meaning you have no right to see them. Have your child sign a waiver of FERPA rights with the school’s registrar’s office in order to give you access to communications regarding tuition and grades. Beyond the fact that you’re footing the bill, having this access will allow you to spot any problems early on.



At nearly every school, students are required to have health insurance. Many colleges offer their own plans, in which case you may choose it or opt to keep your child insured under your family plan. If you elect to stick with your current plan, make sure that your student will have access to providers near to where they will be attending college. Also, make sure to waive the school’s insurance or you will be billed for it.



Your child’s school will have them register for classes online during the summer.  It’s critical that your student meet deadlines in order to get the classes they want.  This is even more important on certain campuses where some classes are not offered often, causing students to take more than four years to graduate.



Yes, they may look like adults, but do they know how to get what they need without asking you how to do it? If you think there could be some gaps in this area, help them gain experience in the following areas:



Decide how your student will pay for things while they’re away at school. Will they have a checking account? A debit card? A credit card? Before they leave, give them some experience both with budgeting and using whichever form of currency you choose. Make spending limits clear in order to avoid overdrafts or being surprised by huge bills.



Have your student become acquainted with the transportation options in the area of their college. If they will be taking a car, they should contact the school to ensure that freshmen are allowed cars and whether they will need a special permit to keep it on campus. Do students ride bikes around campus? Does the school offer shuttle services? Is there public transportation?


Organization and Study Habits

Emphasize study and organization skills during the last semester of senior year. Remind students that group work, taking notes and using some kind of calendar will be necessities once they are in college.


Self Care

Your kid may know how to build a computer but may still be baffled by everyday basics. Make sure he knows how to do laundry, cook simple things, clean a bathroom, and set an alarm clock.


Physical Health